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Nosey Noses

I would like to thank all the old ladies who gave me the stink eye while I was in the grocery store yesterday. For those who may not know, L is borderline autistic. He has frequent meltdowns if things aren’t done a certain way. He’s now in this routine for the grocery store: He “pushes” the cart (while I pull and steer from the end of it), and he has to be the one to put the groceries in the cart. Yesterday, I was grabbing something, offered it to him, he didn’t want to put it in the cart, so I did. Well, it just doesn’t matter if he says no, if anyone but him puts it in, he freaks out. Didn’t matter what I did, he wouldn’t be consoled. I think part of the problem was he had a very short nap and was tired.

Whatever the reason, he was in meltdown mode. Inconsolable crying, nothing could appease him, and of course, the best part, he now refused to move from that spot in the aisle. I asked him politely to move and follow me so we could go get Mr. Then I told him, still calm and everything, that we needed to go. He wouldn’t budge. So I grabbed his hand and began to walk. That’s when he decided to become boneless and try to fall to the floor. Now, his teacher has showed me a way to hold on to him, kind of force him to stand up when he does that. The only problem was, it requires two hands and I only had the one available. Also, have you ever tried to move a boneless, crying kid through a store while he’s wearing a heavy sweater? I kept grabbing sweater, not kid.

Needless to say, there were lots and lots of stink eyes as I hurried to the checkout and got out of there. Now, I was finished with my shopping and was out of there in under 5 minutes. I didn’t drag my crying child all over the store. Have I done that before? Yes, when I couldn’t wait until later to grab something from the store. Most of the time, if it can wait, I leave. Last night was one of those nights were I couldn’t wait until he stopped crying, but luckily, I had everything and had been on my way to the checkout.

I pushed the cart, and tried to avoid dragging my son, through the parking lot and, when he dropped and tried to lay down in the middle of the road, I had enough. I stopped the cart, picked him up, threw him over my shoulder like a sack of potatoes, and hurried to the van. For some reason, there were a lot of people just milling around the parking lot, and they all seemed to be older women. As soon as I picked him up like that, I swear to you, two different groups of women started pointing and whispering behind their backs. I try to ignore when people do that in public, because they don’t know L and don’t know what his issues are. I know there are some moms who have handy cards to hand out, explaining about autism and such, but I don’t.

One one hand, I think those cards are great, because people are usually more patient with a parent when they understand the child is autistic, but on the other hand, have we gotten so judgey as a community that no one will give a parent a free pass if their child is having a meltdown in the store? K, my daughter, is “normal”, yet I definitely can remember some meltdowns she had in public as a child. Hell, she occasional still  has them. Maybe what I’m trying to say is, let’s give some parents a break, okay? Yes, the screaming child in the store can be annoying, but it happens. Next time you see a parent dealing with a child in the middle of a meltdown, offer them a kind smile instead of a scowl and whispered insults.


Yummy Dinner

Hi all. So The Mr and I decided that we didn’t want the buffet OR Chinese food, so instead we opted for Texas Roadhouse, a very yummy steakhouse that’s just down the road from us.  If you live in Phoenix, we often go to the Metro location. The staff is friendly, service is great (for the most part), and the atmosphere is fun.

As usual, we ordered a Cactus Blossom for an appetizer, but kept to iced tea for our drinks. A Cactus Blossom is like an Awesome Blossom or an Onion Bloom, depending on which steakhouse you’ve been to before. The Cactus Blossom was delicious as usual. For Tank, we ordered chicken strips with french fries, while The Mr and I both ordered the 6 oz sirloin, cooked medium well. I ordered mine with the salad and french fries, while The Mr ordered his smothered with onion and mushrooms, with a side of cheese covered fries and a rice pilaf type dish. Unfortunately, the one issue I’ve had with this restaurant has continued with tonight’s dinner. Every time we’ve been there, my order has NEVER been cooked the way I wanted. Tonight I ordered medium-well, yet there was absolutely no pink to be seen anywhere. The first time I ordered it well done, I was brought out medium-well. Oh well, there are worse things that could happen, and the food is so delicious, no matter how it’s cooked, I never complain and always enjoy my yummy steak. I feel bad that I didn’t take any pictures of my food, I’ll try to remember to start doing that, sorry!

Do you want to hear something amazing? Remember how I went to the doctor today? While at dinner, I missed a call from the doctor’s office. I had asked them for something regarding Tank, so I figured the missed call and subsequent voicemail was from Tank’s doctors’ nurse. Imagine my surprise when I checked my voicemail and found it be message from the doctor I saw today, checking to see how I was feeling after my adjustments. To have the doctor actually call me up, himself, is really some amazing..um, customer service? Is that the right term to use for something like this? Hmm, either way, it definitely makes me want to stay with this practice. Our family practice is coupled with a pain management group, so I just had to travel upstairs, which is nice and convenient.

In other amazing news, we’ve been having a difficult time potty training Tank. In the last 2 weeks, he’s actually been going potty at school. In the last 2 days, he’s been going regularly on the potty here at home. Today, I put him in a clean pull-up right before nap, and that pull-up has lasted until bed time. That’s right, he’s kept dry since 2pm today! Squee! Here’s hoping this is a trend that will last for a while and be expanded on!

Alright all, I’m going to go get comfy on the couch and catch up on episodes of NCIS and Friends. Hope to see you all later!


How is everyone doing today? I’m doing pretty good, in a great mood, and super excited for this coming weekend, but I’ll get to that in a minute. If you’ve been following, you know that my 3-year-old son, Tank, is in a developmental preschool. What you may not now is, it’s through the school system, so he follows the school year, which means he had a winter break. Like most public schools, his winter break lasted 2 weeks. I’m not even going to lie, I’ve never been more happy for school to start back again. It wasn’t having him here all the time with no break, it was the fact that going to school and everything that involves, a specific schedule and everything they do to help drain his energy, has left him behavior a whole lot better. This means, during break, he started sliding back to bad behaviors. There were lots of tantrums, and an abundance of energy I just couldn’t seem to get rid of. Part of the problem is, we only have a very small playground in our complex, one car, and not much else within walking distance for a 3-year-old, so we were limited on what we could do to get that energy out. I could not WAIT for the 9th to be here. He started back on Monday and he was so excited (and exhausted!!!) to be back. He gets home about 1:50pm and he was out by 2:20 both days!

While he’s still really tired this week as he gets reacquainted with his school schedule, I can already tell a huge difference in his behavior. Then again, maybe it’s because he’s just too tired to actually whine about anything, ha ha. I had to wake him up yesterday and today. I did this for 2 reasons. One, I want him to keep on a schedule to get his body used to his school hours. The other reason is, we actually had places we had to go yesterday morning and this morning, so I didn’t have the luxury of letting him sleep in.

My other exciting news, which isn’t really news if you’ve read previous posts, is that Saturday is the start of the semester for me and The Mr. He has 2 classes that start on Saturday, a math and Spanish 101, both of which he’ll be doing online (what a brave man!), while I’ve got one, Biology 156, that’s on campus. I’m going to be spending a good 6 hours at school on Saturdays, from 8 am until 2 pm, which won’t be fun, but I’m honestly getting excited about it. I feel like, even though I’ve taken classes a few times last year, I hadn’t really been going anywhere. I felt like my educational journey had stalled. I tried online classes, but I tend to learn best via lecture with a bit of reading for supplemental and the platform of online classes just wasn’t conducive to my learning style.

So on Saturday, I will attend my first on campus college class since 2006. I’m nervous, but also excited. Yesterday the Mr and I headed to the school to pick up our books and supplies. Thank the gods for financial aid, let me tell you! The Mr decided he doesn’t want a backpack right now, not that there’s a great selection to choose from this time of year. We found some at the college bookstore, but they were like $90 each and no way in hell am I paying $90 for a school back pack. Sheesh. We’ll look during the summer when they have all the back to school stuff. Anyway, since the Mr decided he didn’t want a backpack, I was able to get a nice laptop bag. I’ve got a carrying case for my laptop, but it doesn’t have room for anything else. This bag I’ll be able to use as my backpack and have room for my laptop, too. Here it is:




See, that little Velcro area is actually will my laptop will go. For now, it has the book and notebook I’ll need for Saturday. I’ve got everything ready, I’ll just need to add my wallet and keys for Saturday and it’ll be good to go!

I’m going to get going. I have to go pick up the Mr soon. Have a great day, everyone!

It’s been a bit

Wow, it’s been a little bit since I last posted anything. Sorry about that, we’ve had a busy week. Let’s see…last Monday, we kept Tank home from school because he wasn’t feeling well. That night we noticed a raised rash of red bumps all over his chest and back. In the morning, there were more, and even more appeared when I stuck him in the bath. It looked for sure like we had a case of chickenpox on our hands. Fortunately for all of us, but especially the Mr, it was not chickenpox. About 2 or 3 weeks before, Tank had a whole bunch of vaccinations he had to catch up on. When we switched him from the old doctor to our family doctor, they either misread his chart or something, and told us we were all up to date on everything. Long story short, in order to continue with school, Tank had to have 6 shots. Apparently 2 of those have side effects of causing rashes a few weeks after injection.

We didn’t find out it wasn’t chicken pox until the end of the week, so he stayed home all week. Let me tell you, I about went crazy. I had to be careful not to take him anywhere, because I didn’t want him getting any other kids infected, which made getting him out to run off his energy quite a chore. Luckily he’s going back today, so yay! He’s been upset about not going to school this week and I could REALLY use the 2 hours to myself.

In other news, we got our tree put up this weekend. It doesn’t sound like much, until you count the fact that I had to take all the kids toys, and cut that in half. I’ve got a pile of toys and books I need to take to Good Will this week. Tank was a big help for the tree. The Mr and I put it together, and put on the tinsel and lights, but Tank did the star about about 1/3 of all the ornaments. Our tree may not be the most elegant looking tree ever, but it was decorated with love. I usually unplug the tree before I go to bed and plug it back in when I wake up. This morning, I was doing some other stuff and simply forgot to plug it in. About 30 minutes after we had woken up, Tank comes up to me saying “I want Christmas tree, please!” He loves that thing. Yesterday, he woke up from his nap, came out, grabbed a box of crackers, and plopped himself down in front of the tree while munching away. Not the tv, the tree. The lights aren’t even the twinkling kind, they just stay on. It’s adorable.

Alright everyone, I have some stuff I have to get done before it’s time for Tank to go to the bus, so I have to go. I’ll be back later. I promise I’ll be better at this now.

Like a Pro

Today was Tank’s second day riding the bus, and his 4th day at preschool. Yesterday, when the bus got here, I actually had to carry him on to the bus, he was so freaked out by it. When he got dropped off that day, he didn’t seem that fazed by it and his afternoon bus driver (he has a different one in the morning) told me he’d done pretty good.  I was expecting him to have a similar reaction this morning, but when the bus pulled up, he said good-bye to me, grabbed the aide’s hand, and got on the bus with only a little hesitation. When I picked him up this afternoon, the driver said he was acting like a pro, which was good to hear. I sent him with his Puppy (his security stuffed animal) yesterday to help with the transition for the bus, but apparently it helped with in class, too.

During a regular week, there’s no school on Wednesday so, with Thanksgiving this week, today was his last day until next week. I’m a little nervous that, by the time Monday rolls around, he’ll be out of the routine, but there’s not much I can do about it. Now I have to get in to a routine with him being gone. Last week I was going to the gym, but I can’t do that the week I’ve got Princess. See, my gym has a daycare, which is awesome, but they’re closed from 12pm to 2pm, which is right when I need it. After this week I’m going to try going to the gym at 5 am the weeks we’ve got Princess. If that works out for me, I may just keep that schedule.

The Mr and I start classes on 1/14, so yesterday I sat down and worked out a schedule for those 4 months. During the semester, I’ve got my gym time set for 5 to 6am, since I’ll be using the time Tank’s gone to work on homework. If I can get in the habit of going at 5 now, it’ll be so much easier. When I was in high school, I used to wake up at 4:45 and my mom and I would go jogging from about 5-5:45, so while it’s been about 10 years or so since I’ve done that, I have done it before. I’ve got a couple of things I need to work on to be able to do that, which is why I won’t be starting this week. The first is I’ve got to try to go to bed before 11pm each night. I’m such a night owl, I’ve got no problem staying up until 12-1, unless I’ve had a really long, exhausting day. The second thing, I have to retrain my body to wake up that early. Right now I wake up around 7, if left alone (the price of having kids) and while I CAN wake up earlier, if needed, it’s hard if it’s not for something like a special breakfast or an appointment.

Alright, time to start getting dinner ready, the Mr will be home soon.

Question of the Day: What time do you normally wake up in the morning? Are you more of a morning person or a night owl?

First days

So on Thursday Tank had his first day of his new preschool. I stayed there for the first 30 minutes, which is pretty much where they take everyone potty, then get settled to eat lunch. Tank was all about exploring the room and didn’t really care if I was there. Well, until his teacher made him actually stop what he was doing. It was time for him to put up his backpack and sit down for lunch. Well, he wanted nothing to do with it. It probably didn’t help that I chose that time to leave. According to his teacher, he actually did pretty well for a first-timer. He’s never been in daycare or preschool before. The first 30 minutes after I left he cried, then he fell asleep. After a quick nap, he was joining everyone in their activities. So while the first half of the day was kind of a disaster, the second half went much better. On Friday he went again. This time I dropped him off at the gate, like the other parents. I gave him a hug and a kiss and sent him on through. He went on just fine, grabbed his place in line, and went off with the other kids like he was an old pro. When I picked him up that afternoon, his teacher said he’d had a good day, so he seems to have adapted to school pretty easy.

Today is Monday and not only does he go back to school, he’s taking the bus, too. Here’s where I start getting really nervous. See, the thing is, Tank hates, hates, HATES SUVs and trucks. I mean, like screaming bloody murder when he’s in one type of hate. They scare him so bad. Usually, if I’m riding with him, I can get him to calm down after like 5 minutes. If I’m not riding with him, it takes longer, sometimes 20. His bus ride is a little under 30 minutes, so I hope, for the driver’s sake, he doesn’t scream the whole way there.

Ms. A, his teacher, said the driver is really good and plays all sorts of silly music. She also said it may take him up to 2 weeks to get used to riding the bus. I’m hoping, since he’ll be riding it 2 times a day, 4 days a week, that he’ll get used to it pretty quick. My other hope is, he’ll see the other kids from his class on board, notice they aren’t having problems, and take a cue from them. Of course, he could surprise us all and not even be bothered by it, though I’m pretty sure I’d faint if he did that.

We’re T-minus 2 hours until pick up. I keep going around saying “Yay school! Yay bus!” hoping to kinda get him in a “oh this is fun!” mind set. We’ll see what happens. Wish all of us luck!


The Mr and I are both trying to lose weight. I’m on Weight Watcher’s and spilling what I’m learning from that on to the rest of the family. The kids obviously don’t need to lose weight, just us adults, but I think instilling healthy eating habits is good. We love beef, but it can be a lot of points, even when bought lean. One of the things my parents taught me to do to make beef meal healthier is to do half  beef and half ground turkey. Last weekend we had dinner with my parents, spaghetti with a meat sauce. My mom used turkey as the meat, but didn’t tell the Mr until after he’d eaten it. He actually enjoyed it, so this week he asked if we could do turkey burgers. Last night I made my burgers half and half, and then made a small one for him that was just turkey. He enjoyed it so much, he asked for burgers again tonight, this time just plain turkey for him. I can’t quite make the switch to just turkey, yet, for myself, so I made a combo burger, but the Mr and Princess each had turkey burgers. They just loved them!

I accidentally picked up the Italian seasoned turkey instead of just regular ground turkey, so that may be why I’m having a harder time making the switch. Next time, I’ll make sure to pick up the regular. I think the Italian would work great for pasta dishes, but it’s a bit…off-putting for burgers, in my opinion. Now to munch on a few chocolate covered pretzels before the night is over. Hey, I’m still within my points for the day, thank you very much! Ha ha.

Today was a good day, a productive day to end a productive week. Wednesday we had the meeting with the school district, yesterday we had the last of Goat’s occupational therapy sessions and his second to last speech therapy session. I also picked up his birth certificate yesterday and had our 6 month meeting with our support coordinator with DDD. Today I dropped off his paperwork at the preschool and got everything taken care of for that, picked up Princess, and got a little bit of cleaning done. I need to do more, but I have to clean in spurts or else I burn out and refuse to life a finger the rest of the day.  The Mr and I are going to watch some movies tonight, after Princess finishes her movie, The Lion The Witch and the Wardrobe. We rented Something Borrowed and Red Riding Hood.

Off to do some more dishes (I HATE dishes).

What are you doing tonight?